One of the hardest parts of a separation or divorce can be the sudden lack of contact with someone who you have seen and spoken to, not to mention, loved, day in and day out for what might be many years. At the beginning of my nightmare, when my husband launched his shock sabotage of … Continue reading Reality Check: Going Radio Silent
In life we can be faced with events that shake us to our core and feel so devastating to our soul. Heartbreak, loss and grief can be such an overwhelming force, it can feel as though we are being consumed. It is during these hugely challenging moments in our lives that it can be hard to … Continue reading Valley Walking: Walking Through Fire
Oh the promises we will make to keep the one we love. Relationships end for all sorts of reasons. Many end mutually, some just run their course and there is a shared understanding that a parting of ways is inevitable. But what about when the desire to end the relationship is completely one-sided? What happens … Continue reading Reality Check: The Dangers of Desperation
Loneliness seems to come hand in hand with divorce. We became so used to the sounds our home makes when we are busy being married, that the sudden stark silence of being alone can be deafening. Some people may go out of their way to avoid the loneliness. They pack their weekly diary with work … Continue reading Valley Walking: The Deafening Silence
During divorce, there can be so many moments that shock, enrage and hurt you. Learning of your partner's unfaithfulness can unleash a primal need for revenge. Hearing your spouse rewrite your life together can ignite a raw sense of injustice. Having your husband or wife walk away from you and leave the life you have … Continue reading Reality Check: Your Future Self Thanks You!
I've been thinking a lot about the journey I am on and the plan that God has for my life. When I married my partner, God blessed our marriage and we set off on our journey together. What I didn't count on, was that I would be faced with a huge and sudden obstruction along … Continue reading Valley Walking: Recalculating Your Route
If your husband or wife has left you for another person, you will understandably be going through a whirlwind of emotions. The betrayal and rejection can weigh so heavy on the soul and lead to feelings of anger, confusion, shock, guilt and inadequacy. It can cause you to inspect yourself and your relationship through a … Continue reading Reality Check: Mermaids and Mermen
Whether your divorce came out of nowhere, or you had a slow burning awareness that it was on the horizon, emotions experienced in the early days of separation or divorce can be extremely overwhelming. For me, it was a total shock to learn of my husband’s wish to divorce and as a result, I went … Continue reading Valley Walking: The Tidal Waves of Grief
Why is it that some people truly believe the grass is greener on the other side of the fence? In today's world there can be quite a disposable outlook on life. We upgrade our mobiles, our TVs, our cars but what about when we start believing we can upgrade our lives or our husbands and … Continue reading Reality Check: The Grass isn’t Always Greener
If you have ever tried pouring oil into a glass of water, you will see that the oil will not combine with the water. Even when you try to mix the two together, the oil will separate and rise to the top. This is because the two liquids are made up of very different molecules … Continue reading Valley Walking: Oil and Water
Devoted and Divorced 