Being betrayed and left for another is a brutal and very strange kind of experience. It leaves you changed and undone. In my case it was a pain unlike anything I had ever experienced and it completely shifted my reality, my world as I had known it. The pain was immense and unrelenting. A pain … Continue reading Reality Check: Challenging Negative Self-talk
Last December, I got chatting to a work colleague who had recently experienced a break up. She mentioned how hard she was finding Christmas. As she spoke to me, I became aware that she kept using the word "only." The cause for her heartbreak was "only" a boyfriend, that they had "only" been together for … Continue reading Google Searching Your Way Through Heartbreak
We have all heard of the old saying, ignorance is bliss. Sometimes reality can be so painful to face, that we can prefer to block it out. I was guilty of doing this, until one day, I realised I couldn't any longer. In my marriage there had been no mention of any discontent, there had … Continue reading Reality Check: Confronting The Reality
As much as I try to resist looking at the old photos and videos taken through my marriage, sometimes I just get this urge to look at them again. I feel the need to try and recapture, in my mind, the feelings I had and the life I led before this nightmare began. A few … Continue reading Reality Check: Divorce Hall Of Mirrors
While some view life as a journey, others view it as a race. Either way, for most people, life seems to move steadily forward as our lives evolve. However, sometimes, events in our lives can make it feel as though we have been dragged right back to the starting line again. Divorce is one such event … Continue reading Reality Check: The Ex Games
When the one we love leaves us, it can feel utterly unfathomable. Despite the awful shock that we have suffered, we can still have these intense feelings of love that hasn't wavered, this fierce sense of loyalty that remains and to us, the deep-rooted bond we have developed can remain as present as it ever was. But … Continue reading Reality Check: Doing All The Brain Work
There are so many difficult things I have been forced to face throughout the loss of my marriage. During this time, it has felt like a glaring spotlight has been shone on my life, my relationship and my identity. It has illuminated all of the flaws and faults, the weaknesses and mistakes. One of the … Continue reading Reality Check: Decoding The Dynamic
Would you ever take him back? It's a question I get asked a lot. My marriage meant everything to me, as did my husband. I loved him so deeply and couldn't even bear to think of a world without him. I know, without any doubt in my mind, I loved him so much that I … Continue reading Reality Check: Clinging To A Love That Hurts
In a relationship, we are programmed to see the good in those we love. Our feelings for them run so deep that the bad elements of their behaviour can often be cancelled out by the good. If we want to remain with this person, we can choose to focus more heavily on those good parts. … Continue reading Reality Check: The Excuse Factory
The desire for the truth. It has been the catalyst for countless stories of discovery throughout the ages. We have a natural desire within us to uncover, unearth and unveil and when it’s about something important to us, that desire can be too great to ignore. Before finding out about my husbands infidelity, I hadn’t … Continue reading Reality Check: The Instinct to Investigate
Devoted and Divorced 