Being betrayed and left for another is a brutal and very strange kind of experience. It leaves you changed and undone. In my case it was a pain unlike anything I had ever experienced and it completely shifted my reality, my world as I had known it. The pain was immense and unrelenting. A pain … Continue reading Reality Check: Challenging Negative Self-talk
Recently, I was chatting with a close friend about the powerful impact of betrayal, hurt and abandonment and the many ways it affects a person's life and their identity. I found myself talking about the "victim frame of mind" that, at times, I have needed to avoid slipping into during my own experience with betrayal. … Continue reading Victim or Escapee
That day was much like every other day, it begun as it usually did, with a sleepy early morning kiss from my husband before he left for work and me getting ready for the day ahead. I now look back, at that girl and see that she was blissfully naïve to fact that her life … Continue reading Being Enough
Victor Hugo once wrote, "music expresses that which cannot be put into words." Throughout this difficult time in my life, music has formed such an important part of my healing. There have been so many days where I have woken up and within an instant, been struck by the stark reality of my situation. There … Continue reading The Healing Power Of Music
I would like to begin by apologising for not posting for a while. Writing this blog and sharing my experiences with others, some of whom are also on this difficult path, has been like a gold thread in so much darkness and pain. Unfortunately, for a time, I came to find that each time I … Continue reading Valley Walking: Find Me There
It was a year ago that I sat down at my laptop, having never blogged before, and began my first post, “When The Mountain Doesn’t Move.” I was in a dark and desperate place and was searching for something to channel all of the thoughts that were whirling around inside my head. I was trying … Continue reading My Blog Is A Year Old!
This week, I would like to share with you a song that I think has the power to really fire you up and empower you. It’s an oldie but has become a real favourite of mine lately. It’s ‘Dreams’ by Van Halen and it’s quite the 80’s rock classic. The powerful song lyrics could easily be … Continue reading Inspiration Station: Song Of The Week
Firstly, apologies to all my lovely readers that I haven’t posted for a couple of weeks. I went away for a little while and also, things have been quite difficult this past month but I’m getting back on track now. So, on with the writing... I have previously described sudden marital abandonement as being like … Continue reading Valley Walking: Fear vs. Hope
My heart aches reading the letters and cards that my husband sent to me throughout our marriage. Valentines cards, birthday cards, anniversary cards, all confessing the feelings he had for me. But, I have come to find that I feel a very different kind of pain, one far deeper, when I read the cards and … Continue reading Valley Walking: Missing The Way We Loved Them
As much as I try to resist looking at the old photos and videos taken through my marriage, sometimes I just get this urge to look at them again. I feel the need to try and recapture, in my mind, the feelings I had and the life I led before this nightmare began. A few … Continue reading Reality Check: Divorce Hall Of Mirrors
Devoted and Divorced 