Being betrayed and left for another is a brutal and very strange kind of experience. It leaves you changed and undone. In my case it was a pain unlike anything I had ever experienced and it completely shifted my reality, my world as I had known it. The pain was immense and unrelenting. A pain … Continue reading Reality Check: Challenging Negative Self-talk
Recently, I was chatting with a close friend about the powerful impact of betrayal, hurt and abandonment and the many ways it affects a person's life and their identity. I found myself talking about the "victim frame of mind" that, at times, I have needed to avoid slipping into during my own experience with betrayal. … Continue reading Victim or Escapee
That day was much like every other day, it begun as it usually did, with a sleepy early morning kiss from my husband before he left for work and me getting ready for the day ahead. I now look back, at that girl and see that she was blissfully naïve to fact that her life … Continue reading Being Enough
Last December, I got chatting to a work colleague who had recently experienced a break up. She mentioned how hard she was finding Christmas. As she spoke to me, I became aware that she kept using the word "only." The cause for her heartbreak was "only" a boyfriend, that they had "only" been together for … Continue reading Google Searching Your Way Through Heartbreak
Doesn’t the world feel like such a different place? Just when I thought that my new post-divorce world couldn’t feel more alien, somehow the unimaginable crept up on us all. I want to begin by sending love and prayers to you all. I feel so deeply sad for those who have suffered so dreadfully through … Continue reading Newly Divorced in Lockdown – Lessons Learned
I get so much from inspirational quotes. I love to read the quotes that other bloggers share and I also enjoy sharing quotes that have helped me through difficult times with my readers. During this difficult period of my life, I have come to find a new respect for the power that words hold, both … Continue reading The Healing Power of Words
I would like to begin by apologising for not posting for a while. Writing this blog and sharing my experiences with others, some of whom are also on this difficult path, has been like a gold thread in so much darkness and pain. Unfortunately, for a time, I came to find that each time I … Continue reading Valley Walking: Find Me There
It was a year ago that I sat down at my laptop, having never blogged before, and began my first post, “When The Mountain Doesn’t Move.” I was in a dark and desperate place and was searching for something to channel all of the thoughts that were whirling around inside my head. I was trying … Continue reading My Blog Is A Year Old!
This week, I would like to share with you a song that I think has the power to really fire you up and empower you. It’s an oldie but has become a real favourite of mine lately. It’s ‘Dreams’ by Van Halen and it’s quite the 80’s rock classic. The powerful song lyrics could easily be … Continue reading Inspiration Station: Song Of The Week
This is about you now. A single statement that I found so hard to hear at the beginning of this nightmare. It was a sentence that I seemed to read on so many blogs, support forums and advice columns. It was something that I heard from so many loved ones and friends. I heard these … Continue reading Reality Check: This Is About You Now
Devoted and Divorced 