Being betrayed and left for another is a brutal and very strange kind of experience. It leaves you changed and undone. In my case it was a pain unlike anything I had ever experienced and it completely shifted my reality, my world as I had known it. The pain was immense and unrelenting. A pain … Continue reading Reality Check: Challenging Negative Self-talk
Victor Hugo once wrote, "music expresses that which cannot be put into words." Throughout this difficult time in my life, music has formed such an important part of my healing. There have been so many days where I have woken up and within an instant, been struck by the stark reality of my situation. There … Continue reading The Healing Power Of Music
I would like to begin by apologising for not posting for a while. Writing this blog and sharing my experiences with others, some of whom are also on this difficult path, has been like a gold thread in so much darkness and pain. Unfortunately, for a time, I came to find that each time I … Continue reading Valley Walking: Find Me There
This week, I would like to share with you a song that I think has the power to really fire you up and empower you. It’s an oldie but has become a real favourite of mine lately. It’s ‘Dreams’ by Van Halen and it’s quite the 80’s rock classic. The powerful song lyrics could easily be … Continue reading Inspiration Station: Song Of The Week
This is about you now. A single statement that I found so hard to hear at the beginning of this nightmare. It was a sentence that I seemed to read on so many blogs, support forums and advice columns. It was something that I heard from so many loved ones and friends. I heard these … Continue reading Reality Check: This Is About You Now
Firstly, apologies to all my lovely readers that I haven’t posted for a couple of weeks. I went away for a little while and also, things have been quite difficult this past month but I’m getting back on track now. So, on with the writing... I have previously described sudden marital abandonement as being like … Continue reading Valley Walking: Fear vs. Hope
We have all heard of the old saying, ignorance is bliss. Sometimes reality can be so painful to face, that we can prefer to block it out. I was guilty of doing this, until one day, I realised I couldn't any longer. In my marriage there had been no mention of any discontent, there had … Continue reading Reality Check: Confronting The Reality
My heart aches reading the letters and cards that my husband sent to me throughout our marriage. Valentines cards, birthday cards, anniversary cards, all confessing the feelings he had for me. But, I have come to find that I feel a very different kind of pain, one far deeper, when I read the cards and … Continue reading Valley Walking: Missing The Way We Loved Them
As much as I try to resist looking at the old photos and videos taken through my marriage, sometimes I just get this urge to look at them again. I feel the need to try and recapture, in my mind, the feelings I had and the life I led before this nightmare began. A few … Continue reading Reality Check: Divorce Hall Of Mirrors
I wonder if you are as excited as I am about the new "Frozen 2" trailer that's been released. As I watched the trailer for the long anticipated sequel, I was struck by the powerful imagery within it. In the trailer we are plunged into a dramatic scene where Elsa (our leading lady) is boldly … Continue reading Valley Walking: Overcoming The Waves
Devoted and Divorced 