Divorce can feel like being on a sinking ship. My husband abandoned the ship before I was even aware there was a gaping gouge in it's hull. When the damage was revealed to me, I started frantically trying to save it, keep it from going under, keep us afloat. As our ship began it’s certain … Continue reading Valley Walking: The Life Raft
As I sat in the garden, the sun warming my face, I noticed something I hadn't seen before. It was beautiful. It was rare and in a place I simply didn't expect to see it. Amongst a prickly, jagged cactus plant, a single flower had sprouted. It was the most delicate and stunning flower I … Continue reading Valley Walking: Beauty From Pain
What do you do when everything that you held dear to is ripped away from you? In an instant, I felt the world around me fall away. The world I had loved and created and the person who stood at the very centre of that world, gone. I was violently yanked back to the starting … Continue reading Valley Walking: To Reboot Or Rebuild
When do I let go? It’s a question I have asked myself at every stage of this hellish divorce. When my husband first left me for another woman, letting go wasn’t a possibility for me. Even when he told me he wanted a divorce, I still clung on. But now suddenly, I am hit with … Continue reading Valley Walking: Letting Go Or Letting Be
Recently, something really unnerving and upsetting happened. All along, I have kept my distance from my husband's affair partner in terms of not making any contact with her. I hate what she has done, I hate that she has no boundaries but at the end of the day, she didn’t make vows to me, my … Continue reading Valley Walking: Strapping On Your Armour
There have been so many times throughout my divorce where I have been hurt by my husband's behaviour. He turned his back on me so quickly, after all the years together there was no respect, loyalty or care in any of his actions. He turned his back on everything, his vows to me, to our … Continue reading Valley Walking: Leaving The Ninety-nine
Divorce strips so much away from you. The initial thing it takes, is of course, your marriage but there is so much more that it can rob you of. It can steal your security, your identity (as a wife or a husband), your friends, your confidence and your hopes and dreams. I am losing a great … Continue reading Valley Walking: Becoming A Yes Person
When you have been with someone for so long, your identity can slowly become melded with theirs. You may take on their habits, you may find yourself liking the things they like. You might have done the things they wanted to do to make them happy. You can become like one person and your identity … Continue reading Valley Walking: Who Am I Without You?
The divorce experience can be riddled with fear; fear of the unknown, fear of change. The epic shift from our normal life can uproot us and evoke deep anxieties within us. What I am finding, is that the actual divorce process itself has sparked great fear within me. The legal jargon, the cold, alien formalities, … Continue reading Valley Walking: Looking Fear In The Eye
There have been countless times throughout my divorce where I have spoken to God about my situation, told him of my heartbreak, my fear and my devastation. So many prayers for strength, for protection, for healing. The words have flown freely, like a wild river, spilling out of me. So many words, lifted to heaven. … Continue reading Valley Walking: When There Are No Words
Devoted and Divorced 