My marriage went up in smoke the day I found a text from another woman on my husband's phone. So many people ask me whether I saw it coming. I wish I had but I didn’t. I had been totally blind to the signs of his unfaithfulness. Now as I look back I see so many … Continue reading Reality Check: The Affair Signs I Didn’t See
There have been so many times throughout my divorce where I have been hurt by my husband's behaviour. He turned his back on me so quickly, after all the years together there was no respect, loyalty or care in any of his actions. He turned his back on everything, his vows to me, to our … Continue reading Valley Walking: Leaving The Ninety-nine
Divorce strips so much away from you. The initial thing it takes, is of course, your marriage but there is so much more that it can rob you of. It can steal your security, your identity (as a wife or a husband), your friends, your confidence and your hopes and dreams. I am losing a great … Continue reading Valley Walking: Becoming A Yes Person
Gaslighting is a form of mental and emotional abuse, whereby someone attempts to manipulate, confuse, distort or deny your understanding of reality. Many of us will have experienced this at one point or another in our lives but when it becomes an ongoing feature of a relationship, the effects can be extremely distressing. It can impact … Continue reading Reality Check: The Subtle Art Of Gaslighting
I am trying to overcome one of the biggest shocks I think I'll ever experience in my life. I'm trying to piece the fractured debris of my identity back together and fighting tooth and nail to survive this turbulent time that I am experiencing. Throughout this time, I have become very aware of something within … Continue reading Valley Walking: Living Inside Out
Divorce forces you to reassess what you thought you knew about relationships and about human behaviour in general. In my situation, my husband left me for another woman and discarded me in a very cruel way. This may sound naive of me but one of the things that has shocked me the most in all of … Continue reading Reality Check: Raising The Bar On Hurt
When you have been with someone for so long, your identity can slowly become melded with theirs. You may take on their habits, you may find yourself liking the things they like. You might have done the things they wanted to do to make them happy. You can become like one person and your identity … Continue reading Valley Walking: Who Am I Without You?
In the movie business, a screenwriter may be told to do a 'rewrite' of their screenplay. This usually consists of using the original version of their story as a rough guide but manipulating and editing its events so that it works better for the intended viewer. This might mean losing major scenes from its timeline, … Continue reading Reality Check: The Rewrite Of You
The divorce experience can be riddled with fear; fear of the unknown, fear of change. The epic shift from our normal life can uproot us and evoke deep anxieties within us. What I am finding, is that the actual divorce process itself has sparked great fear within me. The legal jargon, the cold, alien formalities, … Continue reading Valley Walking: Looking Fear In The Eye
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Devoted and Divorced 