Gaslighting is a form of mental and emotional abuse, whereby someone attempts to manipulate, confuse, distort or deny your understanding of reality. Many of us will have experienced this at one point or another in our lives but when it becomes an ongoing feature of a relationship, the effects can be extremely distressing. It can impact … Continue reading Reality Check: The Subtle Art Of Gaslighting
I am trying to overcome one of the biggest shocks I think I'll ever experience in my life. I'm trying to piece the fractured debris of my identity back together and fighting tooth and nail to survive this turbulent time that I am experiencing. Throughout this time, I have become very aware of something within … Continue reading Valley Walking: Living Inside Out
Inspiration Station - A weekly quote, song or video to inspire you. The forever legend, Whitney Houston singing beautifully about the strength we can find from within. Whatever you are going through, remember, you are stronger than you know... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-WxDskVK5s
Divorce forces you to reassess what you thought you knew about relationships and about human behaviour in general. In my situation, my husband left me for another woman and discarded me in a very cruel way. This may sound naive of me but one of the things that has shocked me the most in all of … Continue reading Reality Check: Raising The Bar On Hurt
When you have been with someone for so long, your identity can slowly become melded with theirs. You may take on their habits, you may find yourself liking the things they like. You might have done the things they wanted to do to make them happy. You can become like one person and your identity … Continue reading Valley Walking: Who Am I Without You?
In the movie business, a screenwriter may be told to do a 'rewrite' of their screenplay. This usually consists of using the original version of their story as a rough guide but manipulating and editing its events so that it works better for the intended viewer. This might mean losing major scenes from its timeline, … Continue reading Reality Check: The Rewrite Of You
The divorce experience can be riddled with fear; fear of the unknown, fear of change. The epic shift from our normal life can uproot us and evoke deep anxieties within us. What I am finding, is that the actual divorce process itself has sparked great fear within me. The legal jargon, the cold, alien formalities, … Continue reading Valley Walking: Looking Fear In The Eye
Inspiration Station - A weekly quote, song or video to inspire you.
How dangerous can a TV commercial be you ask? Very! I answer. TV commercials may last only 30 seconds on average but brands try to cram as much emotion and feeling as they can into those 30 seconds. They want to evoke a reaction from you, for you to form a connection to their brand. … Continue reading Strange New World: The Dangers of TV Commercials
Mahatma Gandhi once said, "The only tyrant I accept in this world is the still voice within." How many of us have accepted a tyrant in our lives? How many of us have given power over to someone or worst still had it snatched from us? There are so many dynamics at play in a … Continue reading Reality Check: Taking back Control
Devoted and Divorced 