In a relationship, we are programmed to see the good in those we love. Our feelings for them run so deep that the bad elements of their behaviour can often be cancelled out by the good. If we want to remain with this person, we can choose to focus more heavily on those good parts. … Continue reading Reality Check: The Excuse Factory
Divorce forces you to reassess what you thought you knew about relationships and about human behaviour in general. In my situation, my husband left me for another woman and discarded me in a very cruel way. This may sound naive of me but one of the things that has shocked me the most in all of … Continue reading Reality Check: Raising The Bar On Hurt
When someone leaves you or a relationship ends, we can have a tendency to look at the person that left us and the relationship through rose-tinted glasses. When someone is unavailable to us, it often makes us want them all the more. We yearn to be back in the relationship and may desperately bargain and … Continue reading Reality Check: Removing the Rose-tinted Glasses
During divorce, there can be so many moments that shock, enrage and hurt you. Learning of your partner's unfaithfulness can unleash a primal need for revenge. Hearing your spouse rewrite your life together can ignite a raw sense of injustice. Having your husband or wife walk away from you and leave the life you have … Continue reading Reality Check: Your Future Self Thanks You!
Devoted and Divorced 