Revenge. It’s a loaded word. Some people like to refer to it as justice. Revenge is possibly one of the most primal instincts within each of us but it takes a specific event, behaviour or action from another to unleash it. What differs between each of us, is our ability for restraint in acting upon the … Continue reading Reality Check: Resisting Revenge
My marriage went up in smoke the day I found a text from another woman on my husband's phone. So many people ask me whether I saw it coming. I wish I had but I didn’t. I had been totally blind to the signs of his unfaithfulness. Now as I look back I see so many … Continue reading Reality Check: The Affair Signs I Didn’t See
Gaslighting is a form of mental and emotional abuse, whereby someone attempts to manipulate, confuse, distort or deny your understanding of reality. Many of us will have experienced this at one point or another in our lives but when it becomes an ongoing feature of a relationship, the effects can be extremely distressing. It can impact … Continue reading Reality Check: The Subtle Art Of Gaslighting
Divorce forces you to reassess what you thought you knew about relationships and about human behaviour in general. In my situation, my husband left me for another woman and discarded me in a very cruel way. This may sound naive of me but one of the things that has shocked me the most in all of … Continue reading Reality Check: Raising The Bar On Hurt
In the movie business, a screenwriter may be told to do a 'rewrite' of their screenplay. This usually consists of using the original version of their story as a rough guide but manipulating and editing its events so that it works better for the intended viewer. This might mean losing major scenes from its timeline, … Continue reading Reality Check: The Rewrite Of You
Mahatma Gandhi once said, "The only tyrant I accept in this world is the still voice within." How many of us have accepted a tyrant in our lives? How many of us have given power over to someone or worst still had it snatched from us? There are so many dynamics at play in a … Continue reading Reality Check: Taking back Control
When someone leaves you or a relationship ends, we can have a tendency to look at the person that left us and the relationship through rose-tinted glasses. When someone is unavailable to us, it often makes us want them all the more. We yearn to be back in the relationship and may desperately bargain and … Continue reading Reality Check: Removing the Rose-tinted Glasses
One of the hardest parts of a separation or divorce can be the sudden lack of contact with someone who you have seen and spoken to, not to mention, loved, day in and day out for what might be many years. At the beginning of my nightmare, when my husband launched his shock sabotage of … Continue reading Reality Check: Going Radio Silent
Oh the promises we will make to keep the one we love. Relationships end for all sorts of reasons. Many end mutually, some just run their course and there is a shared understanding that a parting of ways is inevitable. But what about when the desire to end the relationship is completely one-sided? What happens … Continue reading Reality Check: The Dangers of Desperation
During divorce, there can be so many moments that shock, enrage and hurt you. Learning of your partner's unfaithfulness can unleash a primal need for revenge. Hearing your spouse rewrite your life together can ignite a raw sense of injustice. Having your husband or wife walk away from you and leave the life you have … Continue reading Reality Check: Your Future Self Thanks You!
Devoted and Divorced 