Being betrayed and left for another is a brutal and very strange kind of experience. It leaves you changed and undone. In my case it was a pain unlike anything I had ever experienced and it completely shifted my reality, my world as I had known it. The pain was immense and unrelenting. A pain … Continue reading Reality Check: Challenging Negative Self-talk
Tag: Betrayal
Victim or Escapee
Recently, I was chatting with a close friend about the powerful impact of betrayal, hurt and abandonment and the many ways it affects a person's life and their identity. I found myself talking about the "victim frame of mind" that, at times, I have needed to avoid slipping into during my own experience with betrayal. … Continue reading Victim or Escapee
Being Enough
That day was much like every other day, it begun as it usually did, with a sleepy early morning kiss from my husband before he left for work and me getting ready for the day ahead. I now look back, at that girl and see that she was blissfully naïve to fact that her life … Continue reading Being Enough
Google Searching Your Way Through Heartbreak
Last December, I got chatting to a work colleague who had recently experienced a break up. She mentioned how hard she was finding Christmas. As she spoke to me, I became aware that she kept using the word "only." The cause for her heartbreak was "only" a boyfriend, that they had "only" been together for … Continue reading Google Searching Your Way Through Heartbreak
Reality Check: This Is About You Now
This is about you now. A single statement that I found so hard to hear at the beginning of this nightmare. It was a sentence that I seemed to read on so many blogs, support forums and advice columns. It was something that I heard from so many loved ones and friends. I heard these … Continue reading Reality Check: This Is About You Now
Reality Check: Confronting The Reality
We have all heard of the old saying, ignorance is bliss. Sometimes reality can be so painful to face, that we can prefer to block it out. I was guilty of doing this, until one day, I realised I couldn't any longer. In my marriage there had been no mention of any discontent, there had … Continue reading Reality Check: Confronting The Reality
Reality Check: Divorce Hall Of Mirrors
As much as I try to resist looking at the old photos and videos taken through my marriage, sometimes I just get this urge to look at them again. I feel the need to try and recapture, in my mind, the feelings I had and the life I led before this nightmare began. A few … Continue reading Reality Check: Divorce Hall Of Mirrors
Reality Check: Clinging To A Love That Hurts
Would you ever take him back? It's a question I get asked a lot. My marriage meant everything to me, as did my husband. I loved him so deeply and couldn't even bear to think of a world without him. I know, without any doubt in my mind, I loved him so much that I … Continue reading Reality Check: Clinging To A Love That Hurts
Reality Check: The Excuse Factory
In a relationship, we are programmed to see the good in those we love. Our feelings for them run so deep that the bad elements of their behaviour can often be cancelled out by the good. If we want to remain with this person, we can choose to focus more heavily on those good parts. … Continue reading Reality Check: The Excuse Factory
Reality Check: The Instinct to Investigate
The desire for the truth. It has been the catalyst for countless stories of discovery throughout the ages. We have a natural desire within us to uncover, unearth and unveil and when it’s about something important to us, that desire can be too great to ignore. Before finding out about my husbands infidelity, I hadn’t … Continue reading Reality Check: The Instinct to Investigate