When the one we love leaves us, it can feel utterly unfathomable. Despite the awful shock that we have suffered, we can still have these intense feelings of love that hasn't wavered, this fierce sense of loyalty that remains and to us, the deep-rooted bond we have developed can remain as present as it ever was. But … Continue reading Reality Check: Doing All The Brain Work
Divorce can feel like being on a sinking ship. My husband abandoned the ship before I was even aware there was a gaping gouge in it's hull. When the damage was revealed to me, I started frantically trying to save it, keep it from going under, keep us afloat. As our ship began it’s certain … Continue reading Valley Walking: The Life Raft
There are so many difficult things I have been forced to face throughout the loss of my marriage. During this time, it has felt like a glaring spotlight has been shone on my life, my relationship and my identity. It has illuminated all of the flaws and faults, the weaknesses and mistakes. One of the … Continue reading Reality Check: Decoding The Dynamic
The wedding ring, a band of gold, placed on our hands the day we exchanged those vows. Vows to love each other, to cherish one another and to commit to each other always. I wore my ring through sickness, through laughter, through tears, through sleepy Saturday mornings, through our big adventures and our difficult trials. It … Continue reading Strange New World: Removing The Wedding Ring
Inspiration Station - A weekly quote, song or video to inspire you. I've been listening to this song a lot lately. I am working so hard to rebuild my life. I can relate to this song, because rebuilding and living without the person you love can feel like drowning. This is a song about hope, … Continue reading Inspiration Station: Song Of The Week
Would you ever take him back? It's a question I get asked a lot. My marriage meant everything to me, as did my husband. I loved him so deeply and couldn't even bear to think of a world without him. I know, without any doubt in my mind, I loved him so much that I … Continue reading Reality Check: Clinging To A Love That Hurts
As I sat in the garden, the sun warming my face, I noticed something I hadn't seen before. It was beautiful. It was rare and in a place I simply didn't expect to see it. Amongst a prickly, jagged cactus plant, a single flower had sprouted. It was the most delicate and stunning flower I … Continue reading Valley Walking: Beauty From Pain
I recently went on my first holiday without my husband. I have to be honest, it was something I was not really looking forward to and yet needed desperately. I longed to be in a different environment, to have a break from the momentum of the divorce, the tension and the sorrow. I craved seeing … Continue reading Strange New World: The First Holiday Without Them
What do you do when everything that you held dear to is ripped away from you? In an instant, I felt the world around me fall away. The world I had loved and created and the person who stood at the very centre of that world, gone. I was violently yanked back to the starting … Continue reading Valley Walking: To Reboot Or Rebuild
In a relationship, we are programmed to see the good in those we love. Our feelings for them run so deep that the bad elements of their behaviour can often be cancelled out by the good. If we want to remain with this person, we can choose to focus more heavily on those good parts. … Continue reading Reality Check: The Excuse Factory
Devoted and Divorced 